The thing about working so closely with people is the simple fact that you become "friends". You spend more time with people you work with, than you do with your own family. In my case, I thought I was doing the right thing by giving Sommer an opportunity to grow and build her clientele. To my detriment giving her too much time was making me the "enabler". I was trying to be the best person I could be by not letting her go a long time ago. The fact is that in this struggling economy, I was paying way too much for the job that was being performed
The timing could not be worse. The very time she is going through a rough patch in her relationship with, my friend (that I matched made with 10 months ago), was the way the timing played out for this termination as well.
Simple truth; I gave Sommer an opportunity to advance within the company. I poured my heart and soul into a plan that could catapult her to the next level. When I presented it to her, she did not show one sign of understanding what I had just offered her. She claims that she was busy processing it. I gave her a deadline to report back to me her decision. I made it clear that if she was not interested in growing within the company that , that was okay too. I was talking about future possibilities of partnership with this young lady! The deadline came and went, without acknowledgment of the offer, an acceptance or denial. Nothing, not a word. I even went to where she was for the entire afternoon, the day after the deadline, and waited for her to give me some sort of unsolicited response. She did not. So the time came that she was finished for the day and I told her that I had given her a deadline for the advancement offer and that I had not heard back form her. She agreed. .......okay, now is the time to say something Sommer, hello??? IS there anyone home? Not one word in her defense. Not one. I said, "Okay, well, I'm sorry but I think it is time we sever this relationship, neither of us are benefiting from it and I cannot continue to waste my time, or yours [hers]". "Okay". No, that's what she said, just, "okay". She proceeded to pack her things and head to the door. I ask, "Is that everything Sommer?" She responded "Yes". I ask did she have anything to say after 3 1/2 years? "Nope". I stated that I was shocked, she then responded, "I'm the one that's shocked, because I know that this does not have to do with anything here, but rather was what Uri [my friend and her boyfriend] was running his mouth about". WHAT? I told her it did not have anything to do with Uri, and everything to do with the fact that she completely ignored my repeated request for making decisions about moving forward.
That said a lot to me. She wanted to blame someone else for her not making a decision. She is not willing to take responsibilities for her short-comings.
Wow, that's all I have to say. Wow!
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